Behold my awesomeness!

A little ego indeed goes a long, long way

Time now for a question I’ve been pondering quite a bit lately:

When talking about yourself and your accomplishments, how much is too much?

Yes, you should be very proud of whatever success you’ve achieved. You want to have confidence in your writing and your abilities, but you also have to be careful about overdoing it.

It’s a fine line between “My script made it to the Nicholl semis! Yay!” and “My script made it to the Nicholl semis. Am I not amazing?”

Then there are the writers who continuously mention their success (“That reminds me of when I was working on my PAGE Silver-winning script…”), or even worse, exaggerate. I’ve read of a writer who touts having won a prestigious contest, when the truth is they won for their genre, not the overall grand prize. Two very different things.

Some people tend to forget that claims can easily be verified on the internet. So don’t lie, unless you enjoy the truth coming back to bite you on the ass.

I’ve had dealings with writers and directors who would rattle off their accomplishments without any prompting whatsoever, including one filmmaker who, during a 45-minute conversation, mentioned at least three times the fact he’d made three films and two mentions of how an A-list actor was interested in one of his scripts (a claim now several years old, and as far as I know, nothing has yet to come from it).

Counter to that, I’ve read updates from writers who, despite their success, remain relatively tight-lipped (“Sold a script today. Looking forward to working with ____ on it.” And that’s it.). I can appreciate that. You’ve said what you wanted to say, left it at that, and moved on.

Speaking for myself, I opt to keep quiet. If somebody asks, I’ll mention having some moderate contest success, but prefer to not be the instigator. I don’t mind tooting my own horn, but I don’t want it to drown out the rest of the conversation.

One thought on “Behold my awesomeness!

  1. Such an interesting topic. I find myself annoyed with some actor friends on facebook — it seems as if every day they’re touting some audition they went in for or some tiny gig they got. I never mention it, but it just bothers me something fierce! I mean, I get it, actors have egos and we need to be loved/. Uhm, I just want to work. And I see it as a silly exercise to tell people all the time what audition I’m going to.

    Thanks for posting this. It made me realize I’m not crazy! I thought maybe I was just super jealous or something. Truth is, I’m not jealous, I just think it’s a matter of etiquette or class not to keep always talking about your accomplishments. I also think some things are just NOT accomplishments at all. Going on an audition — NOT AN ACCOMPLISHMENT! So, thanks for this post…. made me start thinking a little differently…

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